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lederhosenLast night while Rey was tidying the bedroom (we have floor again!) she found a phone number for a friend who vanished a year ago. When we announced we were going to the USA on honeymoon he said he'd visit us there - then, after buying tickets, pulled out at the last minute. At the time, we thought it must be something very serious, but he obviously didn't want to tell us what, so we didn't press him.
Well, we called him last night and found out what the deal is. The man is 45, and split from his wife a few years back. Now he's done the "must not be single! Will ensure affection of girlfriend by abandoning all previous friendship and interest groups!" thing.
Gaaaaaah. I understand our phone call is going to cause him some trouble, and I'm not in the least bit sorry.
I know quite a few of my LJ friends are single. Some of you because you have certain minimum standards, and are getting on with life rather than wait for somebody to show up who meets those standards. Others because you have other passions that take priority in your life. And some because you just don't feel the _need_ to be partnered. I'd just like to say that you are all sensible people for understanding that you don't NEED a partner to make you a whole person. And that you don't need to give up your friends and interests for it, neither.
Oh, and if you ever do what this guy did, I will hunt you down and hurt you until you see sense. Or not hurt you, as applicable.
Well, we called him last night and found out what the deal is. The man is 45, and split from his wife a few years back. Now he's done the "must not be single! Will ensure affection of girlfriend by abandoning all previous friendship and interest groups!" thing.
Gaaaaaah. I understand our phone call is going to cause him some trouble, and I'm not in the least bit sorry.
I know quite a few of my LJ friends are single. Some of you because you have certain minimum standards, and are getting on with life rather than wait for somebody to show up who meets those standards. Others because you have other passions that take priority in your life. And some because you just don't feel the _need_ to be partnered. I'd just like to say that you are all sensible people for understanding that you don't NEED a partner to make you a whole person. And that you don't need to give up your friends and interests for it, neither.
Oh, and if you ever do what this guy did, I will hunt you down and hurt you until you see sense. Or not hurt you, as applicable.
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Date: 2002-10-28 06:30 am (UTC)In a sense, we all choose what is most important to each of us. Some men choose achievement, some fame. And I guess a big part of life is deciding for ourselves what we value the most.
I've been pretty lucky in my life to have had the chance to be a part of a lot of things, as I've written from time to time, stuff I never imagined growing up in an auto town. And having tasted so many of the things other men dream of --power over thousands, national fame, five-star hotels and fifty-dollar dinners-- I still believe, with all my heart, that the gifts of friendship and love, from family and friends, I have been so lucky to recieve are the best of all, better than any other. And among greatest of all gifts is the simple, but profound, friendship like that you share with Rey; or Ceredwyn with Keith; one big enough not only to embrace each other but the full circle of friends and interests you both share.
I agree with you --the gift of someone willing to share their lives not only with you, but with the friends and interests you hold dear, that's a gift worth waiting for, worth fighting for, and worth sacrificing for. :-)