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lederhosenLast night while Rey was tidying the bedroom (we have floor again!) she found a phone number for a friend who vanished a year ago. When we announced we were going to the USA on honeymoon he said he'd visit us there - then, after buying tickets, pulled out at the last minute. At the time, we thought it must be something very serious, but he obviously didn't want to tell us what, so we didn't press him.
Well, we called him last night and found out what the deal is. The man is 45, and split from his wife a few years back. Now he's done the "must not be single! Will ensure affection of girlfriend by abandoning all previous friendship and interest groups!" thing.
Gaaaaaah. I understand our phone call is going to cause him some trouble, and I'm not in the least bit sorry.
I know quite a few of my LJ friends are single. Some of you because you have certain minimum standards, and are getting on with life rather than wait for somebody to show up who meets those standards. Others because you have other passions that take priority in your life. And some because you just don't feel the _need_ to be partnered. I'd just like to say that you are all sensible people for understanding that you don't NEED a partner to make you a whole person. And that you don't need to give up your friends and interests for it, neither.
Oh, and if you ever do what this guy did, I will hunt you down and hurt you until you see sense. Or not hurt you, as applicable.
Well, we called him last night and found out what the deal is. The man is 45, and split from his wife a few years back. Now he's done the "must not be single! Will ensure affection of girlfriend by abandoning all previous friendship and interest groups!" thing.
Gaaaaaah. I understand our phone call is going to cause him some trouble, and I'm not in the least bit sorry.
I know quite a few of my LJ friends are single. Some of you because you have certain minimum standards, and are getting on with life rather than wait for somebody to show up who meets those standards. Others because you have other passions that take priority in your life. And some because you just don't feel the _need_ to be partnered. I'd just like to say that you are all sensible people for understanding that you don't NEED a partner to make you a whole person. And that you don't need to give up your friends and interests for it, neither.
Oh, and if you ever do what this guy did, I will hunt you down and hurt you until you see sense. Or not hurt you, as applicable.
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Date: 2002-10-27 09:55 pm (UTC)What startles me sometimes is realizing just how many people ARE married or partnered - because I tend to think of even my paired friends as individuals - I'm friends with Art, I'm friends with Rey, they happen to be married, so?
I do get vaguely weirded out by people who seem to exist as half of a unit.
Though sex is a lot cheaper than electricity for warming up the bedroom, I'll grant you that.
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Date: 2002-10-27 10:36 pm (UTC)This annoys me. Online it's different, since Keith barely exists here. But for a lot of people I am one half of a single entity. It took a while for a few people to have it drilled into them that because they tell ONE of us something it does NOT mean we both know...