Boundaries
Nov. 28th, 2015 05:34 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Think I might've just broken off a long-standing and much-valued friendship. Dammit. And not even for anything they said or did to me - this is somebody who's always been good to me, who's given me a great deal of fun and kindness over the years.
But there are things I can't overlook, not even in my friends, ESPECIALLY not in my friends. And knowingly signal-boosting refugee-hating white supremacists and anti-PP propaganda is definitely in that list, because that shit gets people killed.
NB: I'm not saying we have to be in perfect agreement on those issues. I'm talking about basic honesty (if you share material that turns out to be a fabrication, maybe correct the record?) and, um, not relying on sources that would be right at home on the Daily Stormer. I don't think that's an extreme position.
Gah. This is not a friendship that I would cast aside lightly. But I have to draw a line somewhere. If they change their behaviour I'd gladly welcome them back, but I doubt either of us is going to shift on this one :-(
NB: The person in question has access to this post - not sure if they still read LJ/DW, but they're welcome to read this if they see it. I have no desire to see people trashing them in comments; I'm feeling sad enough about this situation as it is.
But there are things I can't overlook, not even in my friends, ESPECIALLY not in my friends. And knowingly signal-boosting refugee-hating white supremacists and anti-PP propaganda is definitely in that list, because that shit gets people killed.
NB: I'm not saying we have to be in perfect agreement on those issues. I'm talking about basic honesty (if you share material that turns out to be a fabrication, maybe correct the record?) and, um, not relying on sources that would be right at home on the Daily Stormer. I don't think that's an extreme position.
Gah. This is not a friendship that I would cast aside lightly. But I have to draw a line somewhere. If they change their behaviour I'd gladly welcome them back, but I doubt either of us is going to shift on this one :-(
NB: The person in question has access to this post - not sure if they still read LJ/DW, but they're welcome to read this if they see it. I have no desire to see people trashing them in comments; I'm feeling sad enough about this situation as it is.