It's all good - by making those assumptions, you flicked one of my switches. I'm not objective on this subject either, but my family has a strange combination of overprotectiveness, blind spots, and self-interest. Assumptions about the degree of care received during childhood really flicks my switches, for reasons of... Well, example follows:
I play bridge, have since I was 11. It was generally assumed that my parents were tutoring me, up until the point where I laughed at the suggestion two years ago. They were working, tired, and too busy to do anything with each other, let alone me. It was also assumed that they were aware of the behaviour of some of my fellow under-25 bridge players (and, less visibly, some of the adults). Another assumption: That I would use the support network that was apparently there for young bridge players if I needed it. I needed it, didn't know about it, and assumed that the behaviour I was experiencing was condoned because there was no help to be found anywhere. Since visibly reaching adulthood, several persons have, in conversation, mentioned that they used to be really worried about me, but they thought my parents were handling it. People who didn't think I needed counselling enough to help me pay for it, even after my school counsellor spat the dummy at them? Fat chance.
Umm, yeah. Flicks my switch. Let me just turn that off, now...
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I play bridge, have since I was 11. It was generally assumed that my parents were tutoring me, up until the point where I laughed at the suggestion two years ago. They were working, tired, and too busy to do anything with each other, let alone me. It was also assumed that they were aware of the behaviour of some of my fellow under-25 bridge players (and, less visibly, some of the adults). Another assumption: That I would use the support network that was apparently there for young bridge players if I needed it. I needed it, didn't know about it, and assumed that the behaviour I was experiencing was condoned because there was no help to be found anywhere. Since visibly reaching adulthood, several persons have, in conversation, mentioned that they used to be really worried about me, but they thought my parents were handling it. People who didn't think I needed counselling enough to help me pay for it, even after my school counsellor spat the dummy at them? Fat chance.
Umm, yeah. Flicks my switch. Let me just turn that off, now...