I think what you're pointing out here is the very difference between "victim" and "survivor" itself.

Rape victims (those in the immediate stages during and after a rape) do not, indeed, need to hear anything that they will internalize as "you deserved what happened" any more than the victim of a bicycle accident needs to be rolled around in the dirt at the crash site while their wounds are still open.

Yet, once things have healed over some, part of taking back the idea of one's self as an independent being can be looking over the events before and during the assault, and identifying the good and bad choices made and decide what to do if it ever happens again.

Not everyone who has ever been raped is still a victim. Some of us have lived beyond it, after all.

Corr